We'd like to share with you some things that we've learned
about communicating when you've got a concern.

First we need to talk about something we've all got
that if we don't manage well can tie us up in knots.

And that's FEELINGS, we've got 'em, of all different kinds.
But they don't have to run us, 'cause we can use our minds.

Feelings are strong.....

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You can shake like a leaf in the wind when you feel scared...

And let yourself cry.....

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Don't bottle up those feelings

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But dumping them on folks who aren't really listening

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So if you want to vent and get things off your chest...

Now we want to tell you

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It's called an I-message.....

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There's no blaming, no shaming, no putdowns or disgrace.....

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I say exactly what it is that bothers me.....

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And though I-messages can help when you feel mad.....

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So here are some examples that were put to tune.....

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1. I feel angry when someone yells at me
because I don't feel respected at all.
I'd like if you could...

2. I feel annoyed when you put down
what I say or I think...

3. I feel hurt when you leave me out
because I thought we were the best of friends.
I'd like to talk with you...

4. I feel grateful when you take time to listen to my problems,
Because it helps me...

Ending refrain:
If we want to relate, we've got to communicate.